My Idea of What It Takes . . .

“In life we have a set number of both good and bad days. The number is the same for everyone but, it is up to you to decide the degree of pain or joy you will experience. To improve you must fail, to be happy you must succeed. Find a way to pattern those in a way to maximize your life.”

The Best Choice I Have Ever Made! 🙂

Gossip & hate speech are, unfortunately, gifts that keep giving.

What is the point of speaking meanly about those around you?

To know you and your friend 'hate' the same person?

✨ WooHoo! ✨

Now what?

what happens from there, do you then pretend to still be there friend?

Or

Just give each others glances when that person does that "thing" you two talked about being so annoying?

I'm sorry that we have all been exposed to gossip. In work, school and family life. We often here about the negatives other people have to offer first.

Anyone could be your best friend, but unfortunately we've been exposed to their negative traits prematurely.

Be it gossip or an off day, most people shut down friendships before they have a chance to develop. so since everyone around you gossips, why not stand out?

"Success is building a house with the bricks that are thrown at you"

Build yourself a house of bricks that actually means something. A mansion! This is your life and yours only!

(However, it may be best to allow others to vent to you in regards to their frustrations, you may be the only person they feel comfortable speaking to. However, if they ask your opinion, just give one that is constructive or say you don't know.)

Lastly, if someone asks you a dumb question, it's because they've noticed that you have quite the in understanding the answer. So there's your chance to teach and be kind to the people who care enough to improve!

People Are Not Just Good, They Are Great!

Often, the pessimist in us may begin to believe that there is simply no such thing as "good" people. However, that is simply false.

Let me begin by talking about human nature.
One fact of human nature is that we are all born skeptic. Humans are born to question, and the kids whose questions are not silenced go on to become curious and problem solvers such as scientist or doctors. (Or rather, those whose curiosity is encouraged by their environment, continue on to find more answers for their fellow man.)

In addition to our natural skepticism, we are born kind.

Science says that children learn violence and aggression.

Actions which intentionally invoke or allow pain in others are learned,

not inherited.

Children who learn through questing,

as well as rewarding of good deeds,

are natures intended human.

Even though a person may grow up being taught a 'bad' way of life, they still will conceive a "blank canvas" of a child. In other words, though the new born was birthed by someone who did not value kindness. That new child will inherently value actions made from a place of peace until said child is taught against their inherited beliefs.

Now is a great time to acknowledge that yes, some people are purely out to hurt others. However, this does not represent the majority. Let alone the 'intent vs. effect' of people's actions. Honestly, most of the pain people experience is due to misunderstandings. Humans are incredibly talented in providing for those they love and those who need help.

Love is a chemical reaction of survival, to stay near to those who keep us safe. Love is the birth right of every child ever born, this is proof that kindness is in our best interest.

I think, not only optimists see humans as good, realists also see humans for what they are: pure forces of good in both intention and practice.

Mirrors

Isn't it amazing that we have an innate fear of mirrors.
Why does something like a reflection scare us?

Most people begin feeling uneasy after staring at themselves for long periods of time.
Why do we not trust our own appearance?
As if we look at ourself and believe this person I am looking at is not me
Rather
This one is malicious
This one wants to hurt me.

when Someone has seen themself blink.
That 'I caught you' moment.

Fear is inherited at birth.
Passed down by ancestors to protect us.
In the past, those who didn't fear the bit of a spider would pick it up would die by its poisionous fangs.
While those who avoided the spider would live on and pass down this knowlegde in the form of fear.

Which begs the question:
What about a mirror is so dangerous, that has been I have been inherited to fear?

I know I shouldn't threaten my reflection.
And
I wouldn't just stare at myself?